Anxiety, shyness, paranoia, defensiveness, hyper sensitivity, jealousy & insecurity have always been lurking in the shadows of my insane brain, ready to ambush & suffocate any glint of happiness, hope or self confidence that dares shine through. These emotions often strike without warning and can be extremely destructive if you let them, flipping the widest & happiest smile up side down into a frown.
Over the years I have learnt the long, hard way that my negative thought patterns gave these emotions more power than they deserved. By consistantly viewing these emotions of mine in a negative light, how could I expect the end result be positive.
In my opinion, using negative language creates a negative experience. Using the words challenging or learning experience rather than bad or negative will dramatically alter both your memory of the experience, as well as improve the chances of a favourable outcome.