When I decided to leave my ex husband, the hardest thing to work out was how to divide our time with the girls equally. He has always been a hands on dad, spending as much time as he could at home. Neither he or the girls would benefit from reducing their time together to just weekends and school holidays. I was so relieved when he agreed to trial my proposal of the girls staying with me during the 4 days he works then him having them on his 4 days free. We were sceptical at first but it has worked amazingly well for everyone, including his new wife for the last 8 years.